Speed dating evenings
For a moment, think of the worst first date you ever went on.You know, the one where that woman just never talked?Whenever I talk to my students about speed dating, they appear to be judgmental and critical (as most of my students are of nontraditional dating methods, including online dating—a topic we’ll discuss in another blog).But, the value of speed dating lies in its efficiency.Essentially then, when first meeting someone, the advice is clear and simple: smile and make eye contact.Of course, the caveat is that you smile naturally and make an appropriate amount of eye contact…a constant smile and unwavering eye contact can convey creepiness and an unintended level of social awkwardness.As one example, Ambady and Rosenthal found that students who viewed 6-to-15 second video segments of professors were able to form judgments that were consistent with judgments of teachers’ actual students.So, you’re now probably thinking how you can work to make an accurate first impression on a speed date?
That is one of the greatest benefits of speed dating.In other words, physical attraction along with positive communication behaviors explained variance in the belief of whether or not someone thought they would have a relationship with you.Pretty telling stuff here, particularly since a speed date lasts less than 10 minutes.On the damaging side, men and women cited a lack of attraction as a primary driver of negative evaluations.
Interestingly, women further explained a perception of “negative qualities” in the other person as something contributing to their negative thin slice judgments.
Has a great person ever hit on you at the wrong time? Or someone is flirting with you at a family party (not a cousin…hopefully)? At speed dating, though, time is not an issue: everyone is there with the common goal of, hopefully, meeting someone great.