Male dating advice
Your thoughts, actions, level of control, and life are no longer yours. Even though it may seem easier to forget and move on from mistreatment, these can be the hardest types of exes to forget.
Although empathetic and connected people are extremely hard to forget, they always leave with respectful transparency.
My goal is to amplify what’s destined for you so you can stop living at the expense of it.1) I used to be attracted to narcissists.
Looking back in 20/20 hindsight, these people were a very different animal but the same common-denominator species as prominent figures in my childhood who were highly narcissistic and toxic.
The narcissists that I was in relationsh*ts with in my adult life activated reverse narcissism. While they prioritized their own needs and agenda, I would base my value on how long of a moment I could divert their attention away from themselves, while simultaneously making their selfish, disrespectful and contradictory behavior all about how I just wasn’t enough.
And exactly like the person I was working so hard to be good enough for – I was making EVERYTHING about me – only in a reverse,kind of way.
My goal is to save you time, energy, worry, dignity, and the regret of living a life half-lived.Ducks don’t turn into swans just because you decide you’ve had enough of waiting for them to transform and turn your head for a moment. We know it happens not just with relationships, but dream job interviews, looking at a great house for rent or sale, a wonderful vacation package to Heaven on Earth, hotel deals that can’t be missed, that ‘must have’ item of the moment and the two for one offer that just couldn’t be passed up…We are full of anticipation, excitement, a feeling of abundance and happiness. Your boat is not floating anymore and just so you know, those flags you saw were RED!And swans don’t become ducks just because they’re in insecure company. It’s called misrepresentation and it’s the biggest turnoff. There we are, floating on a boat, out to a shimmering sea of great expectations and a beautiful view that has us smiling from ear to ear…Or so it seemed…Remember that time you met a wonderful someone who seemed to tick all the boxes? READ ON: I think this dilemma is an interesting, multi-faceted one.I was the doormat that brought all the dirty shoes to the yard.
My self-involvement/obsession hit it’s peak when I started to believe that I was so worthless and yet so powerful, my mere presence alone could elicit the awareness in others that their emotional boots were indeed dirty and in need of a good wiping off.I also know that for me, these people have activated the most mind f*cking, what-if FEAR.