Dating after death of husband
I'd seen the movie a few times, but it never struck a chord with me. Comedian and widower Patton Oswalt was recently criticized by internet trolls after announcing his new engagement to Meredith Salenger 15 months after his wife's death. I was excited to see that he looked just like his photo — fit, tan, and a little rugged. I was a bit surprised to hear a thick country accent exit his lips but found it adorable.
Then I remembered it was originally a book, a dating guide for single girls. People wrote things like, "He's getting grief-laid" and "I'm judging him in my heart for getting it on a little too soon." The engagement spiked so much controversy that it inspired a fellow widow blogger, Erica Roman, to defend him in an emotional post: "You don't get to comment on the choices of a widower while you sit happily next to your own living spouse," she wrote. We were having a great time until he decided to ask me how long I'd been single.
I wasn't proud of my inebriated night on the town, but I did learn something from it. The girl he fell in love with made no apologies for who she was. She looked for the best in people and braced herself for the worst.
She never compromised her morals and made it her job to understand other people's flaws.
As I closed the bathroom door behind me, my tears were unstoppable. I wondered why this guy ever bothered to string me along like that.
I spotted my tall, sophisticated, handsomely dressed fellow at the bar. Over the next few weeks I made some major changes in my life. My winged eyeliner became smudged and my speech was a little slurred as I spoke.If I was ever going to get back out there, I needed to be prepared. Prebook, I felt depressed, insecure, and vulnerable. After days of Googling dating sites, I finally signed up for e Harmony. So why do people throw divorce parties and jump at the opportunity to set up the recently divorced but criticize widowers for attempting to move on with their lives. "I'm a widow," I replied, hoping to squash the subject matter. He proceeded to coax more information out of me, asking how my husband died, asking me about the trial, and even asking me about the man who'd killed him.